In a democracy, people have choices and based on how they view a political party or candidate, they vote accordingly. Some voters will always favour one or the other, but if and when the opponent wins, we ought not to hold on to the other persons decision and condemn them for their choices.
There can only be one winner in a past-the-post political system and as the saying goes, it’s always a case of ‘May the best win’.
To spend the next five years sulking or wishing bad for your opponent is silly and malicious. You can only wish or hope that in the next political cycle that your chosen party wins, but it is and will always be the will of the majority that determines who governs.
Likewise in relationships: your chosen lover, or the partner of your dreams, may choose to end the relationship for whatever reason, but despite your hurt or your disappointment, it is wise to swallow your pride and move on. Wallowing in your past will only result in grief and sadness on your part.
Some people live in toxic relationships, but rather than facing the facts or the reality of the relationship they rather stay and complain frequently to whom soever would listen.
The same applies to jobs, as we were not meant to be forever in a selective job. Through aging or new advances in the job (be it technological or otherwise), or the presence of newer and more progressive employees, or for cost-cutting measures or disability, sometimes you have to let go.
Too many people hold-on to what was, rather than thinking of what can be. Things change, people change, situations change and seasons change because nothing remains the same.
In life, there will always be regrets, unfulfilled ambition, regretful situations or shattered dreams, but as long as there is life, there is a reason to roll with the punches.
Life is a big gamble, sometimes you win and sometimes you lose, but you cannot always end up on top and if you can’t accept that change does exist and you have to adapt, then you are doomed to be disappointed throughout your life span.
Let us take the scenario of eating. Most people like to eat everything, but if you discover that certain foods are no longer good for you or your health, do you still consider eating whatsoever you like because of your taste buds habits, or change by necessity for a prolonged life.
If dope, alcohol or any other such substance is not good for you based on factual information, do you still imbibe just for the fun of it? You have an old car, or old house, or friends that suck your life out, do you hold on to them knowing it will not get better, or keep spending a fortune on car repairs, or make an effort to change your circumstances?
As I age, I became more aware of change and I begin to realize that others will take your place, or the skills you once possessed no longer apply.
I accept what I cannot change and make the necessary alterations for continuous survival.
You cannot always swim against the tide, you cannot always be right, and you must always remember that nothing in life will last forever and life will never remain a bed of roses.
Those you help or support today may drift away tomorrow, those you expect to be there for you may not be there when the need arises.
Governments comes and governments goes, lovers come and lovers go, money comes but never stays and our hopes, dreams and aspirations can disappear at any given moment.
So, I suggest we take things as they are, fight only battles that you can win and never assume that others should follow your lead. That’s not the way it is and that approach simply does not work.
By accepting change, you will never be disappointed because you assume that you are or was the loving and giving one. Hate is never an option, and thinking always about yourself alone, is not always the best. Always remember: You must live and let live, especially because, at the end of the day, every dog also has its day.