How many of us have been promised help and support from loved ones and those we consider friends, but when the time comes and you need them the most, they’re just not there?
Especially when choosing a partner, the trust and the hope you put in them can all be eroded because talk is cheap and does not always change the price of cocoa or coffee.
People are promised jobs, a raise in pay, a promotion, a better deal, support in obtaining a loan, assistance with a down payment, also promised they will always be there for you and would like to be your business partner, so you can gain their trust. But again, when it really matters, they find reasons to say why they cannot fulfil those promises you counted on.
In political circles, these promises are even more prevalent, especially if you are an avid party supporter. How often have you heard the opposite side condemn the workings of the incumbent party promising you a better and more satisfied life after you have voted for them, and when you inquire about all the promises, you then discover that all of that was simply election campaign talk?
Children and young people today are the same: they promise to assist and help their parents, but when you ask for the needed support, it’s always a no-show.
Everybody seems to have their own problems, so everyone sees about their own needs before considering yours.
Some people fall out of favour with their spouses because of promises made by the new potential lover, just to jump from the frying pan into the fire.
Promises do not always come from the heart, there are a lot of wolves in sheep’s clothing, pretenders, fraudsters, impressionists, tricksters, bluffers and other cons whose words are cheap and can be used to deceive or mislead.
Honesty is a rare quality and it is not easy to judge a book by its cover, so it is important to be on your guard at all times.
Not everyone who is an acquaintance is trustworthy and not all friends are genuine, so, in today’s world, caution is recommended because everyone has their own agenda.
Choosing one to be your lover or a bonafide friend, needs scrutiny, background checks or surveillance. You have to approach it like being a CIA agent. In other words, you cannot trust before having done all your inquiries, investigations, or surveys. In other words, you have to ‘Maco’ their movements.
There is a generation of vipers out there, a lot of them with “get rich quick” schemes, using people for gain rather than being supportive. Mistakes can be costly, wrong choices can be the same, and being given “a six for a nine” is common, so my advice is to be extra careful with persons making promises.
Learn to trust your instincts, and don’t be afraid to distrust or scrutinize with a fine-tooth comb. Be vigilant and choose with caution and avoid being deceived, because the cost or loss is irreversible.
In the service industry where you seek professional help or expertise to improve your future, be more than careful because there is something called professional bluff. Some persons, because of their ignorance of a particular area, can lead you down a slippery slope, so don’t take anyone for granted or trust blindly.
And believe me: I am talking from experience.
Happy Independence Day and weekend to all my readers.